Defining your personal style

I was a broke student. In all 6 years of college and grad school. I had to make ends meet. And to tell you the truth, they never met. Landing my first (and only) corporate job meant I now had the means to shop. And shopping I did. I shopped and shopped and shopped (get the message…OK good). I bought clothes and shoes of all sizes, shapes, and colors, with no rhyme or reason. However, I still faced the age-old problem that has plagued most women:

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The problem was not the lack of clothes and shoes, I just didn’t have the creative juice to style them. Which is why I have embarked on this journey.

Now that my closet is all cleaned out, I need to rebuild. I need a functional closet. But what is a functional closet and how do you create one? To answer those questions, I turned to books (yes, I love big books and I cannot lie).

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my first attempt at designing


Although I read them all, only a few were very meaningful. I Love Your Style focused on defining your personal style. The author, Amanda Brooks, categorized different style options into different groups. Some of the popular ones include:

  1. Classic: The classic woman sticks to tried and true silhouettes and shapes, with a slight infusion of personality. This doesn’t mean she ignores all fashion trends, she just has a bias for time tested styles and pieces she will wear for a long time. You may find her rocking the following:  little black dress, cream silk blouse, pencil skirts, tailored jacket or blazer, tailored trousers and the list goes on!

  2. Bohemian: Two words, laid-back! The bohemian chic places emphasis on self-expression. You might catch a glimpse of her in her free flowing floral frock. Her closet is full of color and prints. She can easily transition from day to night without looking out of place.

  3. Minimalist: Simplicity is key. Her go-to pieces are a simple black dress, solid colored tees and shirts, and a favorite black handbag. (To honor her, I will keep this to 2 sentences).

  4. High fashion: Average does not define her. She always takes each outfit up a notch. She can make a white tee from Walmart look expensive (OK…maybe that’s a stretch). While she is in the know of major fashion trends, she usually doesn’t fall victim to them. This style is pretty risky, but done right the risk is always worth it. Her favorite pieces may have these elements: sequins, fur and leather.


For me, this was like taking one of those behavioral tests. I read through the different styles and thought about my style history. I remember pictures I tore up just so no one would ever see them. I started by experimenting different styles to figure out which I felt the most comfortable in. I looked through magazines and Pinterest (you have no clue what that is…click here) for style inspiration. I tried out different clothing items from different stores to see which items resonated with me. Over and over again, I was drawn to the classic and minimalist styles. However, I know I have my high-fashion moments.

So there you have it! That’s my journey thus far. Next up is body types. I hope to share some of what I have learned about dressing unique body styles soon.

PS: The summaries above are in no way all encompassing. For more information on all the styles, please refer to the book.

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  1. Love it! I guess I am a little bit of all except bohemian :) I don’t really have a style….Lmbo

  2. I went through the same thing when I finished grad school and finally started a job with a decent wage. Unfortunately, I found out that once you start spending more money on high quality clothes it feels normal – suddenly you can’t imagine shopping at Gap or The Limited, or even Macy’s. You save and save for a “one time” luxury purchase, and then you suddenly feel like you need two or three more of the same. After finally getting a grip on things, I’ve found I’m most comfortable with a minimalist aesthetic… but I still have too many clothes! It’s a work in progress.

  3. I am so proud of all of you “tunji’s angels” you are an inspiration to the next generation !!!!!! Tosin, Kemi (gentle) and Kemi, Ikepo… Bisola.


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